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For a hero to be a truly great hero, he needs to be:
Nematodes in-the-know will tell you,
that only ‘true’ heroes
have ‘what it takes’,
… worm cuisine.
Why is that exactly?
Does it not seem a little strange to you that a race of people should so esteem, the decomposure of their ‘finest’ citizens?
“Psychosis … refers to an abnormal condition of the mind …
often described as involving
a ”loss of contact with reality“.“
Sounds pretty scary eh?
And yet … here’s the strange thing.
There exists a global freakishness peculiar to our civilization that goes like this:
… we lust after
the loss of contact
This peculiarity goes by many names:
- Video Game Dependence
- Compulsive Pornography Disorder
- Manic Music Dependence
- Hyper-Communication Syndrome
- Pathological News Monitoring Disorder
- Fashion Fixation Nervosa
- Compulsive Identity Mania
Why would we give up something so vital to existence …
… as reality?
“real (adj.) early 14c., “real, actually existing, true“
Let’s start with a man unafraid of reality, Robert Fritz:
“Too often reality is seen as the enemy. Even Albert Einstein …
… was not a fan. He said, “Reality is merely an illusion, although a very persistent one” … one day he [Einstein] was playing in a string quartet with some very illustrious musicians … After making many mistakes, his friend Jascha called out, “Albert, Albert, what’s the matter with you? CAN’T YOU COUNT!“
Maybe Albert tried to explain to his friend Jascha that his playing out of time was merely a persistent illusion …“
Our civilisation’s putsch to see ‘reality’ (or ‘life’) as an illusion to be overcome. or as a ‘bitch‘ to be slapped or disregarded, has been quite astonishing.
We must ask:
“In what sane world would such loss of reality be tolerated?”
The sane reply must surely be:
I think we’d better let Mr Fritz wisely continue:
“Everything that is real happens in reality: relationships, the creative process, music, art, sports, career, fun, pain, cooking, eating, spending time together, love, spending time alone, LIFE. So why do people have such trouble with reality?“
Bloody good question!
“Reality is an acquired taste.” For most of us, we don’t like reality because it may include unpleasant things. But insisting that things are not what they are doesn’t make them change. Once you become a fan, anything other than reality is not something you want because it is where the action is.
Now comes the hard bit – to see if I can show you how & where our taste-buds got sickened of reality.
Oh the stress!
“In psychology, stress … can be described as: feeling of strain and pressure, feeling of anxiety and being overwhelmed, overall irritability, feeling of insecure, nervousness, social withdrawal …” etc etc.
Like so much of the crap we possess, stress was sold to us via the toxic twins - Experts & The Media.
Introducing counterfactual thinking:
“Counterfactual literally means, contrary to the facts …“
“Stress is produced by a particular kind of abstract thinking, something that linguists & social psychologists call counterfactual thought … Have you ever had a thought such as “If I weighed less I would be more attractive” … “If I had more money, my life would be easier” … the first part of the statement counters the facts of life as they are“
The before, & then after quote, come from The Myth of Stress by Andrew Bernstein. He rejects any notions of stress as external & places it squarely at the feet of counterfactual thinking.
He claims stress is frankensteined into life when we use reality-denying words like ‘should‘ & ‘should not‘ … oh my god, what a surprise – we are being ejected from life …
… by the English language:
“linguist Daniel L. Everett described his time among the Pirahan tribe in the Amazon, whose members have very little counterfactuality in their language or culture & are the happiest people Everett & his fellow linguists have ever encountered. The Hopi language & culture seem to share a similar grounding in factual reality & peace of mind.
But you, as a modern Westerner, come from a culture & a linguistic system with strong counterfactual tendencies … The structure of the idealized “should” is tightly woven into your value system & your morality. That’s how you were educated to see the world … if you’re interested in living without stress, you need to challenge this structure“
Another reality taste-bud-killer is hindsight.
“the inclination to see events that have already occurred as being more predictable than they were before they took place“
Surely the looking back & (way) down on previous selves, events & understanding …
“It seems, with hindsight, ridiculous that in the early 1950s, many thought that a sub-4-min mile was impossible“
… deserves a more appropriate label.
How about psychosis? …
“loss of contact with reality“.
e.g. (& referring to our previous quote)
Until the sub-4-minute mile was run,
“When do you know for sure that something is possible? After it is created. Anything before the fact is speculation“
Let’s now re-look at Just World thinking, it’s BIG – you will see why as we continue … for now, here’s an aperitif:
“The story of depression begins with the person as a child learning to be good & to believe in the Just World“
A quick off-the-top-of-my-head musing on Just World ”rules”, led to these:
- hard work is honoured / admired
- if you don’t rock the boat you will be safe
- being good keeps you safe
- you get (eventually) what you deserve
- truth matters
- money makes sense
- families love each other
- happy ever after
- the hero arrives just in time
- the guilty / sinners are punished
- your life makes a story
- the innocent die for a reason – made Jews / Israel necessary?
- you will be seen / found / rescued
- suffering is for a reason
- no one can have it easier than you
- love is all you need
- people get well
- you can help people
- your parents cherish you
While your list would undoubtedly be different, you will hold variations on (at least some of) these themes.
And that matters
the ones you breathe life into every day,
because of your
belief in a Just World
“It’s not fair“…
… is your trigger
I’m sure the ‘NEWS’ would return to sane obscurity if we did not get all worked up about injustice – all those deliciously ‘unfair’ things that happen every day. I wonder how many pages a newspaper would have …
… without ‘unfairness’.
‘Unfairness’ is very, very personal.
We get incensed about the terribly unfair things that happen to innocent victims.
We seethe about the ‘undeserving’ having it ‘easy’ or getting more than their ‘fair’ share.
We get worked up according to the rules of …
… our own particular “Just World‘ Programming.
“Believing in the Just World leads us into self-delusion, denial & acts of cruelty against ourselves & others“
We react to others according to our own Just World interpretation. We can leave Jehovah for dead, when it comes to those who trespass against our commandments.
I was introduced to the Just World idea, by Dorothy Rowe, a woman I currently hold in great esteem:
“She … came to reject the medical model of mental illness … . She believes that depression is a result of beliefs which do not enable a person to live comfortably with themselves or the world. Most notably it is the belief in a “Just World” … that exacerbates feelings of fear and anxiety if disaster strikes. Part of recovering is accepting that the external world is unpredictable and that we control relatively little of it“
But that’s no fucking good, surely?
We need answers.
We need to feel safe.
We need to know what is happening.
So that THEN we can relax.
What if it’s all wickedly & manipulatedly, arse about face my friends?
Let’s look at it another way.
Just World thinking is your employer, your mortgage holder & your drug dealer all in one. You work for it & struggle to repay it & are addicted to it.
“One day”, you think, you will retire & own the deeds to yourself & kick that habit right out the door.
The Platosocrastotle Thinking System™
is designed to ensure
However it isn’t simply one structure that binds us – it’s more of a Gulliver’s Prison System™ …
so many, many
devilishly inconsequential knots
too small to matter.
But then again
what do you think …
… a net is made of?
Jehovah was playing for keeps when he said:
“Thou shalt knot …“
The God Father has so very much to do with Just World thinking – cos it’s an awfully dangerous world out there dontcha know … but if you are very, VERY good BIG Daddy will protect you.
Dorothy Rowe places Security at the opposing end of the Freedom spectrum.
If you read that last line through without thinking ‘Fuck’ (or its equivalent for non-swearers), please got back & read it again.
I was taught
was the opposite of freedom,
We were taught that Freedom was & is the cornerstone of Democracy.
Yet think about it, what is the biggest, hardest putsch behind our free democratic modern world?
‘Thou shalt be secure’
But then God Fathers are very much into protection rackets.
Note of caution to fanatical freedom seekers: healthy living is a mix of security & freedom (according to individual needs) – but I’m sure you can figure it out yourself without any agencies.
You know I’ve been wondering:
- ‘Were gods created as a ‘thing’ to be sinned against?
… if there were no gods, would there be no sin & thus no need to hide from ‘reality‘?
Just World thinking declares that you must ‘earn‘ the good that comes to you.
- Would we work the way we do if we did not have this embedded idea of ‘earning’?
- Could our present monetary system exist without that belief?
- If we weren’t so afraid of ‘reality’ would we need cinema & tv? Just how responsible is entertainment for creating our fear of reality?
- Could advertising exist without Just World thinking? Materialism is all about what you deserve - 1001 little treats to reward you for being a good citizen, for ‘paying your civilised dues’ – a quick fix to feed your habit for another seven days.
- Could the lottery ever have gained its insidious hold without Just World thinking. How many people in the queues KNOW that this week it’s surely their turn, they have been so good, suffered so long now, things just HAVE to get better.
Just World thinking steals your life – because it makes sense of ‘waiting’.
Waiting is not meant to make sense.
Let me make better sense of what I’m trying to say.
Waiting is a Death Watch.
I want to finish by looking at how Romance could not exist without Just World thinking. For those who want to mutter & grumble as they read, that “it’s all different now” – I say bollocks, this thinking goes bone deep & bones don’t change in one generation.
So let’s strip-search ‘romance’.
First off, men don’t ‘get’ romance.
They are not interested in it.
Some know how to ‘play it‘ to their own advantage & are probably more aware than most, of its poison. That they use the poison (& get away with it) is one of the many clues we have that this is not a Just World.
To keep this world in a state of imbalance,
a fantastic system
has been operating
It goes like this:
From an early age boys are emotionally castrated & forced into a hero role.
From an early age girls are trained that there is something shameful about them. Something wrong that must be ‘forgiven’. It’s never quite understood just what this unpleasantness is, but it is in the very air that a girl breathes.
At some stage she will reach the point where she must choke-swallow this wrongness or ‘sin’ – for only then can she be born again into ‘woman clan’ where she will work to atone for the shame.
This ‘something-wrong-feeling’ is why girls accept each fairied-tale of a female protagonist’s hardship & suffering. It is understood that by suffering & sacrifice she may eventually be rewarded. She knows she is a sinner, but that she can ‘earn’ redemption through “one who is without sin” – i.e. a hero, a knight, a man.
“As for me, I have always agreed with the fairy books that the moment when Prince Charming arrives is the perfect climax. Everything that goes before in the life of a girl simply leads up to that moment, and everything that comes after dates from it; and while the girl of the twentieth century, sallying forth in search of adventure, may not hope to meet at the next turn a knight in shining armor, or a sighing troubadour, she does hope, if she is normal and has the normal dreams of a girl, to find her hero in some of the men who pass her way” ~ Temple Bailey, “Adventures in Girlhood,” Philadelphia, 1919
Romance for women, is redemption.
It is no mere trifle – they are attempting to ‘save their own lives’.
Men just don’t get that.
A woman romanced is being redeemed from her unknown guilt & shame. She becomes blessed among woman.
Romance has a very great deal to do with the ‘women’s tribe’. We all share our guilty secret of unnamed shame. When a woman has been ‘redeemed’ by a man she is lifted up from her sin. She is made clean.
“Hell hath no fury”, because when a woman is cast off, she is cast down again, a very long way down.
The Just World told women that while “yes they were bad, they could yet be redeemed” through suffering & by giving up their own strength so that men could become the heroes who would then come & redeem them.
(In return, though unbeknownst to women, a man too will be granted redemption – he will be saved by a woman who will ‘do‘ his emotions for him.)
Women have learned to wait & wait & wait & we’re quite ok with that, it makes for many a charming, sad story … Her name was Lola.
But waiting is the death of them. There is a good reason why the words wait & weight are intoned with the same sound
Some months ago while contemplating this theme I got what I can only call a ‘message’, that shocked me both by its unexpectedness & its vehemence, it said:
“women are not supposed to wait“
I am still digesting that one, but it makes a whole lot of sense.
what we’ve got wrong
is really quite simple.
We have been trying to live according to laws that do not pertain to this planet.
Any thoughts that this is a Just World are counterfactual.
“No honest appraisal
of the world …
could ever conclude
… are fair & just“
Counterfactual thinking creates zombies – people who breathe & eat but have no connection with reality.
We are suffering from reality starvation & we just don’t know it.
While the media bombards us with stories like this:
“At the present rate of destruction, an area of rainforest the size of 2,000 football pitches is lost during a 90 minute football match“
… it might be wiser to ask:
At the present rate of destruction, how much of ourselves are we losing on a daily basis by lack of connection to reality? How much are our senses shutting down with each 8 hour work day? How many memories are being destroyed/replaced by each movie watched?
What do we stand to gain by a return to reality. I suggest a life that is a thousand times better than the ones we are deathing in now – why else would so much effort have been put into scaring us out of it?
“No matter how far you have gone on a wrong road, turn back“
For anyone who is interested in taking that journey, I leave you with the wisdom of Robert Fritz:
“It takes discipline to learn to see reality as it is. It takes skill, because we have been trained to think comparatively, which means we have been trained to have reality stimulate triggers of concepts we have, past experiences we presume to be the same as what is going on, theories, speculations, beliefs, and so on. To see reality takes looking and observing. But the mind isn’t good at that because it takes the ability to be okay with not knowing something while we are finding out. The mind hates not knowing, and so, when we don’t actually know something, instead of looking to find out, our minds wants to fill the space with answers that pretend to know what we don’t know. To learn how to, not only tolerate, but appreciate not knowing something until we find out, is how we acquire a taste for reality“
Do we really need another round of Olympic Games keeping us stuck in the unreality of far away worlds, or do we need the reality at our fingertips, under our noses, in front of our eyes & within earshot:
“You don’t need a concept to know what you are tasting, or smelling, or touching, or hearing. Your senses are designed to perceive reality so that you can make decisions about what you will do in the circumstances“