oh your god!


“So, my dear, how do you deal with self-hatred?”

Dear Mick, (& let’s face it, the rest of us),

There’s good news & bad news.

Let’s start with the bad, because it sells better.

We hate ourselves because of
certain opinions
we developed about ourselves

far away


These opinion of ourselves
have evolved into our personal gods.


And you know what the appetites of gods are like.

Today I am presenting ideas from the (highly recommended) book Identity (Robert Fritz & Dr Wayne Anderson), cooked in my own style with extra spicy ingredients.

Now let’s get down and dirty.

We pretty much all have opinions of ourselves that are
so (personally) heinous …


… that we have no choice but to create
their ideal opposites …


… just so we can live
with “ourselves”.

If I have the opinion that I am a ‘bad’ person, I will spend my life working to show that I am its ideal opposite – a ‘gooood’ person. All my actions will be based on proving what a good person I am.  I probably won’t even be aware of any of this.

Now I want to take this one step further & introduce an even tougher mix.

If we are many selves & these selves have different histories (as per The People You Are – Rita Carter), then what if a number of our selves have heinous opinion issues?

It would be no wonder that life
is so hard & messy &
we often seem to act
downright weird.

I personally worked with Robert Fritz’s wife to uncover my opinion of myself & it was really useful.

However I was also left with another opinion that I couldn’t make disappear. It was something that repeatedly came up for me. Only now by considering that we are multiple selves & that some of these selves may have distorted opinions can I make sense of this other point of view which I couldn’t find a home for.

Let’s say you have seven selves & two or three have serious opinion issues, doesn’t that start to make sense why you are often such a nut job and can seem so inconsistently triggered by a strange variety of things?

The really bad news is that by running from these …


opinions of yourself
& basing your entire life around
forcing yourself to live up to …

man of the west

their opposite ideals,
you have




into gods.

And gods as you know, are immortal.

So you need to understand that you cannot kill these suckers off. Ever.

We might say that, in a nutshell you’re fucked, locked into a game you can’t win by ideas about yourself you didn’t even know existed.

Now the good news.

Outside of that nutshell …


… there’s another world.

You see the things about god’s is that they are not based in reality.

These opinions of yours are not based in reality, which is why they can’t be killed off.

Struggling against them just feeds them.
Camouflaging them with ideals just feeds them.

Understand that you have made them immortal in your world.

Yet they have no concrete reality, they are paper tigers.

However these paper tigers are powered by your sense of Identity.

When you make life all about …

about you


back again

So we have to find a way to be ok with our true opinion of ourselves. And believe it or not it doesn’t matter what you think of yourself, this has no effect on you creating a life you’d be proud to show off, even while cringing about your supposed lacks as a person.

If I have the opinion that I’m an idiot I can have a good life.

If you think you are worthless and can’t have a good life.

You just have to take yourself out of the equation & stop making life about you & how other people see you. Instead you put your time, energy and focus on the outcomes in life you want.


Now let’s bring in another necessary ingredient.

I asked you last time what message did you receive from your parents / family?


What was the overall sighed-message about your darned existence.

The reason was as follows.

Brain scanning research was done on a group of people. First they were asked to think of themselves and a certain part of their brain lit up. Then they were asked to think about a stranger. A different part of their brain lit up

The third time they were asked to think about their future selves. Now for quite a lot of them the area had lit up when they thought about strangers, lit up again. This means they imagined their future selves as a stranger.

Holy fuck!

That’s really scary.

Because we either don’t care about …


or fear,

We certainly don’t create our life with them in mind. Yet this is exactly what we need to be doing.

So what answer did you come up with for that parental reaction to your existence. You may find that that is how you address your future self.

As an example my future self has always been a nuisance. When current me has to do something for this future self …


… it’s ‘such a nuisance’. It feels like a ‘waste of time’.

Yet I have the best photo in the world of me holding my newborn son, & I think it was because then I had a future to work for.

We must regain our futures. We must work for our futures.

Identity is so much about me-now.

If we see our future selves as strangers we are not going to engage with them, yet I think it is they who can save us.

A little extra to finish.

I have been considering that we may actually be born with our selves in place. That they make up the very structure we think is us, just as different organs make up our body.  When we are young we are happy with our selves & give all full expression


… no matter what they were like.

However because we grow up in a society that is inhuman, these selves did not receive the nourishing experiences they sought.

Gradually we accepted society’s views that we were just ‘one’ person & so denied these selves the right to their own existence. Imagine denying your …


… liver or intestines their existence.

Part of this was done by making our selves embarrassing & personally painful.  Ideals (which as we know are impossible to achieve) were forced on us, & we began to fault our ‘selves’ for not making this impossible grade.

Why might that programme of selves-devaluation be in place?

Perhaps because these selves have powerful gifts and abilities.

I have a bad/bold mouth that I spent a lifetime trying to keep shut because it burned people with truth and then I was left alone. Long ago I learned to despise that mouth, that speaker, for the pain she caused me. Why couldn’t she speak the way other people did so I could be liked & popular.

That’s how twisted this can all become & why we need to check what we are shunning.

Another possibility is that a gestalt of selves may be required …

all pieces.jpg

… to activate particular abilities unique to each of us, even though some of these selves may be less than likeable.

Here’s an example.

I remember Matt Delooze talking about an ayahuasca ceremony he took part in. He was told that while some of the people seemed like a bunch of self-centred pains in the ass, they nevertheless carried the required symbolism to make the ritual a success.

So what if the personal aspects of ourselves that we really don’t care for actually carry a symbolism/energy that can allow the other selves to fully activate the gifts they have.

What if the ones we hate are necessary pains in the ass?

~  ~  ~


February 19, 2018. Uncategorized. 11 comments.

posing another question and responding to your hate mail

When I posed the question …


… about your three favourite hates, it was for a reason.

I’m guessing that one or two of your hates may have been a little surprising to you.

Nevertheless, if you did the work, I’m pretty sure you will have found a commonality in these ‘heinous’ people that may have been …


… surprising.

If you haven’t guessed already, your answer was, of course, about you.

About a self of yours that has ..


… diplomatic immunity.

A self that was once very necessary but now wreaks havoc
because it is no longer needed i.e.

grew up

… you grew up.

You continually protect this self by denying its existence in you while at the same time despising it in others. Obviously if you scorn & revile something you couldn’t possibly have such a characteristic, could you…?

You also create an idealised opposite as extra proof of not having or being this thing. (Thanks to Robert Fritz for this).

Aren’t you clever!

Now the nature of the structure in which we live always requires a fool to get the ball rolling.

fools cap

Luckily I do have access to a fools cap, so will get things underway.

What I ‘found’ & despised in my-self was a sneer.

I can remember exactly when and where I first adopted this sneer.

It was on a bus on my way home from school when I needed a shield/mask to hide behind after one too many humiliations.

The sneer came from an actress on tv.


To me she exuded invincibility, imperturbability and indestructability. I felt I needed this ‘look’ to prove that no one could hurt me. For some reason this has been one of my strongest driving forces.

While it may have worked, it has long outlived its usefulness.

Not only that it has caused pain to my body. The sneer has become a part of my musculature, in the same way that many of us have held-in guts from the fear of belly fat or the illegal lack of abs. The things we despise ‘live’ in us, that’s why we need to choose and then re-choose, wisely.

So …


… who do you hate?  And where are they working with immunity in your life?

Now let’s add a further question to ponder.

What overarching message did you receive from your parents/family? What did they tell you/imply over & over?  You may have forgotten about it or dismissed it but it lives in you.

What was the most common pronouncement, delivered matter-of-factly about you, probably with a sigh? Never underestimate the power of a sigh to turn shite into concrete.

The answer to this will be used in the next article to help clear out …


… some important closet space.


February 11, 2018. Uncategorized. 5 comments.

who would you kill off?


Dallas is an American prime time television soap opera that aired on CBS from April 2, 1978, to May 3, 1991.


Of course that’s hogwash.

Everyone knows that that series began on Nov 22, 1963. It is famous for spawning the …

… “Who shot J.F.K?” hysteria.

“A House Divided” is the … final episode of the third season …[of] Dallas and … is the episode known for spawning the eight-month …


… “Who shot J.R.?” hysteria.

The frictional Dallas of course is Delos.

“The island of Delos … is one of the most important mythological, historical and archaeological sites in Greece. Delos had a position as a holy sanctuary for a millennium before Olympian Greek mythology made it the …

… birthplace of Apollo and Artemis

Prior to the birth of the sun-light king Apollo, his mama Leto addressed the dry, barren island thusly:

“Delos, if you would be willing to be the abode of my son Phoebus Apollo and make him a rich temple –; for no other will touch you, as you will find: and I think you will never be rich in oxen and sheep, nor bear vintage nor yet produce plants abundantly. But if you have the temple of far-shooting Apollo [the] incessant savour of rich sacrifice will always arise

And Dallas is certainly a place of rich sacrifice.

JFK was a representative of the house of Apollo’s light house. But the light …


… always dies (which is where the far-shooting comes in).

Meanwhile back at the ranch;

“J.R. Ewing … described as “the nastiest man on television, a man so venal, so low, [who] become an absolute de-light …

… to an estimated quarter of a billion viewers around the globe”

Larry Hagman who played JR was born on the Autumn equinox in 1931 – that’s when the light goes dim and night rules. But Hagman was much more than a dark-side twin of JFK.

“hag (n.)  … probably from Old English hægtes, hægtesse “witch, sorceress, enchantress, fury …

One of the magic words for which there is no male form, suggesting its original meaning was close to “diviner, soothsayer,” which were always female in northern European paganism, and hægtesse seem at one time to have meant “woman of prophetic and oracular powers”

So he played the role of male priestess

“To become a shaman, one had to be both man and woman because a person should be the sum total of all human experiences … Usually such transformed shamans would be looked upon with awe, fear or suspicion. They were considered to have very strong and special magical powers.”

“Shaman “a priest or priestess who uses magic for … divining the hidden, and controlling events

Remember the Hag man/woman once commanded the services of a genie – this star was no mere mortal.

“I Dream of Jeannie is an American fantasy sitcom starring Barbara Eden as a 2,000-year-old genie and Larry Hagman as an astronaut who becomes her master.”

Barbara means ‘strange or foreign traveller’. Dream rearranges into madre (mother).

The Hagman/woman died November 23, 2012 – one day after JFK’s sunset & during the most prized year of the century.

Delos was also home to the cult of Dionysus – the god of having a very good time.

dallas falus

“The Stoibadeion contains a rectangular platform containing a statue of Dionysos … Two pillars …support a huge phallus, the symbol of Dionysos …the southern pillar …shows a cockerel whose head and neck are elongated into a phallus, on either side are groups containing Dionysus and a Maenad, with a small Silenus on one side and a figure of Pan on the other”

Apollo & Dionysus are two sides of the same coin or ‘a house divided’ – in their respective roles of civilised order & licentious chaos.

The “Dallas Sun-light Kings” exhibited the traits of both these gods.

They were fabulously powerful heirarchical males …

and far-shooting sexual cavorters.

It is standard practice to think that powerful men must have huge libidos. But is that really so?

If Vadim Zeland theroies are correct that balancing forces coming into play when too much importance is placed upon something, then massive wealth/power combined with endless sexual conquest would surely upset the order of things.

“The universe exists with balance. Nature thrives on balance, and the human is subject …

to these forces of the universe. This means that, for example, when we place too much importance onto something, there is some force coming into play…

… to neutralize this”

“When an event invokes an extremely negative or positive build-up of energy … we can be sure that … “balancing forces” will always be drawn to the occasion”

However in the hands of ‘the gods’, chosen proponents seem to be allowed to play out certain roles for varying time periods. I am inclined to think that JFK was required to be both president and satyr, as was the far-shooting future president, Bill Clinton. I doubt it was an accident that Clinton’s antics became public, rather they were required fertility rites.

What if the reason the very rich and powerful i.e (the royals) are so incredibly two dimensional & boring is to maintain their status quo? Everything is subservient to maintaining their power. Their monotonous voices, unflattering clothes, decades old hairstyles all work to maintain an extremely stable vibration that ensures continued rule without upsetting balancing forces.

When fireworks are necessary, stars are brought on stage to do what stars do best …

… burn bright and burn out.

So unglorious truth-seekers – shhh we don’t want to upset the balancing forces – here ends your conspiracy tidbits for today. There’s no point going further, there never was, because it’s…

… rabbit city all the way.


Instead we come to the real reason for this article.

This post is aimed at you, in a different kind of far-shooting way. This time it’s you who have to do the far-shooting.

I want you to consider a spot of self-hero-making
in the truest sense of the word.

“Hero … specifically a dead man, venerated and propitiated at his tomb or at a designated shrine, because his fame during life or unusual manner of death gave him power to support and protect the living”

First off please understand this whole article is play.

Furthermore it’s only true power lies with you, the reader. You are the fertile one, not me. I just enjoy looking at things from different angles & offering them to anyone who might find them useful.

So back to our heroic article.

I contend that children who come from what I call the House of Neglect (all conspiracy theorists come from here) created a super hero role to combat traumatic experiences that no one taught them how to deal with.

We are returning in this post to the theme of being many selves in one body (see previous articles).

Now instead of creating a ‘major self’ with a number of minor selves which would have helped create a half-decent future, we crafted a ‘super hero’ thought-form to get us through the worst of times.

When we face monsters in childhood, be they physical, emotion, mental and /or spiritual we need a big, bold solution.

Enter the hero.

Heroes face huge struggles & huge powers – Heracles was super strong, Achilles was a super warrior, Odysseus was super cunning. They fight horrific monsters like …

… Minotaurs, Sphinxes & Hydras that were too powerful for lesser mortals.

However god-like they seem, these guys are mortal. And once their task is done they need to complete their role by dissolving into immortality through a young, tragic & often brutal death. A super man requires a super death. Balance returned. However having propitiated the balancing forces their memories are free to rise to immortality.

Now along with their super powers, heroes came with super flaws.

They are all assholes. Balancing forces again methinks.

So we really don’t want asshole heroes hanging round in our lives any longer than necessary. Especially as once they’ve reached their use by date they seem to turn into monsters.

Maybe monsters are all just heroes that weren’t killed off in time. Imagine that!

And maybe heroes were created by monsters we took too long to deal with. Imagine that!

However we are where we are & somewhere amidst our multitude of selves is a hero needing to die …

… and achieve immortality.

“Their pain in life resulted in fame after death. This fame was passed on through what the Greeks called kleos, or glory. Through kleos, the heroes achieved their own form of immortality.”

Locating your rogue super hero is not an easy task. Due to it living past its expiry date it morphed into something deformed yet familiar. It keeps doing its job even tho its job is defunct.

That’s why you were set some homework in the last article. To turn your attention toward tracking down your hero turned monster.

What you are looking for is a thought form, so familiar, so “TRUE” that it feels like your own skin. You ‘know’ this thing so completely. It is a FACT of your life. It keeps turning up. It’s so real it is constantly being proved true in your life. People keep doing ‘this’ to you, this thing keeps happening to you no matter where you are or who you are with.

Pay attention.
There’s always only one common denominator.

How strange that the same thing occurs again & again & again.

You are being run by a Hero-Thought-Form. Something that once kept you safe or busy or confused or angry or whatever you needed to avoid the awareness of something that was too overwhelming.

Ok great it worked. Back then. Now because you are grown up, it is not needed & it has become a monster.

Who do you hate most – what are their qualities? There’s a clue there.

But don’t be fooled, the thought form you are looking for is a hero gone rouge –

… so it’s super cunning, strong & strategic.

Here is your quest. Make it a serious. This self needs to go.

Which self is manipulating all your other selves. You are looking for a double or triple agent and it will know you are on to it. I have been hunting mine for the last few weeks.

You have to play around in your head. If I kill this one off what will happen to the others?

It’s like a strategic chess game. You have to look at what will happen if you make a particular move. How will that affect the others?

There is a self who underpins all your other selves and locks you in the life you now lead. If you like that life thank it. If you don’t, find it & then we’ll look at taking it down, with gratitude, not with venom & releasing it into immortality so we can move on.

This is a work in progress …


February 6, 2018. Uncategorized. 9 comments.

know thy selves

For a bigger, brighter, glossier outcome
to my upcoming article, please engage
in the following hateful exercise.

Take your time, don’t rush it
Be curious

Your starter for 10:


Which 3 people do you hate most in all the world?

Write them down, keep it private AND don’t take any action you would regret.


Get clear about each one – what do you hate about them?


Don’t rush – take a few days to mull this over.


Indulge your feelings. Chop and change your hates until you get to the three dirtiest names you can find.

You may surprise yourself
as to who makes it to your list.

It was a struggle for me at first – hate’s much stronger and badder than ‘don’t like’. We’re not encouraged to be ok with our hates.

I ended up with one movie star and two meh people from my past. This was very surprising.

But when I looked at the whys there were unexpected correlations between all three.

Of itself this would have been interesting though forgettable.

However things took a very useful turn when contemplating my next article. So get ready for that by doing some work now.

Who do you hate and why?

~  ~  ~

This question comes from Journey to You by Steve Olsher, an Inside the Structure book which nevertheless has some useful questions aimed at clarity.

January 26, 2018. Uncategorized. Leave a comment.

two belong in this place

At around 5:30 John said that Jesus said that …


“I can of my own self do nothing.”

and that is a goddamn fact!

Today we take a three-pronged look at the crooked thinking we have lived by for too long.

We will do this by seeing

  1. the astounding uselessness of our individual selves
  2. the enormous power of our selves in ‘relationship’ and
  3. the astonishing reality of our multiple selves

By the end of this read you may

  1. hate me for upsetting your cherished identity
  2. feel small and insecure & seek ice-cream or alcohol or
  3. say “fuck yes what took you so long to get this written”

Any response is valid. At least with option one & two you know your heart is still beating.

~  ~  ~

Let’s begin by weeding out the faint of heart and stirring up the wrath-wraiths with a simple warming statement.

You are useless.

Seriously, I’m not joking, you really are useless.

You are useless in the way …

new born

… a newborn babe is useless.

You really can do nothing by yourself. And this will never change.

However this bad news is really great news, at least according to the theory proposed here today.

I have stated many times my ideas on ‘bringing your 50%’.

You can give 100% but you can never be more than fifty percent of a healthy, workable relationship.

In other words you have to meet things, engage with a person, group, project or idea in the (50/50) middle. You meet them half way and…


they meet you half way.

This has to happen …

softest touch

… in order for anything valuable to be created.

This ‘middle’ may not be an obvious, exact or geographic “middle”.

What it has to be is,
a ‘willing’ middle.

As Robert Fritz would say,
It takes two ‘yeses’.

An example,

The sperm meets the egg in the middle. The sperm may look like it’s the active, go-getting partner, but without the egg to receive it, it will just be another voyager…

lost at sea

… lost at sea.

There’s got to a willingness to each and every conception, that’s why only one sperm out of millions get through – it’s not because they are a tougher battering ram. I understand that some conceptions are downright nasty, yet I think that at some cellular level there is a willingness for the event to take place, at that time.

So let’s use the sperm and the egg to illustrate our uselessness.

Show me a man made in his father’s (sperm) image and I’ll show you a

hot sperm

vamoosing woman.

Right from the word go we are shown that creation in this world is made of two.

This damned concept of Oneness, of Unity, of the continual struggle to be ‘The One’, is poison. The only place that leads to is alONEness…


… in a barren wasteland.

Which leads me to another place of dangerous ONENESS – the world inside of ourselves.

Within us lies a fantasy world of such epic, powerful and…

mirror mirror

… mesmerising proportions that it has the ability to destroy its user.

So insanely dangerous is this inner world that we are given physical traits to help overcome it i.e. our eyes face outward. We cannot gaze upon ourselves unless we have the help of a mirror…


… and even that can be dodgy.

Staying sane requires us to engage with the outer world just as it is, with as little reference to our inner fantasy news reports as possible.

Staying sane requires us to engage with our ongoing hot-off-the-inner-press emotional news reports – by checking them against reality.

And last but not least staying sane requires us to bring what is inside us into the outer world in a way that others can grasp. Turning what has meaning for us, into what has meaning for others makes our rich inner-fantasy world a treasure trove for the world & an ally for ourselves.

The inner and outer must be in relationship with each other.

I believe that when we gaze too long inside we begin to dissolve ourselves because our gaze is too strong. Remember how Moses couldn’t look at God because his gaze burned him … well we’re supposedly made in his image.

When we willingly become half of something else, life seems to just move in. It seems to always await our choices and actions.

For instance, right now you are in relationship with this article. In each person who reads it, life is activated differently. Of itself this article is a dead thing – typed words and images on a page. It is YOU relating to it, that is turning it into something.

Have you ever noticed how you can get sooohhh excited about a book, idea etc and then you share it with someone else and it turns into a limp, lead weight of feebleness, well now you know why, you and the object of your affection formed a life connection. The person you tried to upload your joy into was not attuned. It wasn’t for them.

You know when you have those movies with the two halves of a code, map, key etc hidden separately and only when pieced together can the treasure be found. Well what if that’s us?


We can never be more than half, yet also we can never be less than half. We are essential to creating life and yet meaningless by ourselves – how strangely reassuring is that?


One is impotent and infertile.

Two (or more) is generative.

Everywhere we have bought into ONE needs to be called into question.

ONE does not move – it does not have life.

One/WON is something perfected – it does not have life

One goes round in circles – it does not have life


“unite (v.)  early 15c. … from Late Latin unitus, “to unite, make into one”.”

Now what if our failings, our weaknesses, our embarrassing bits are the most important things we have? What if our imperfections save us from the lifelessness of perfection and can inspire us to create?

Surely the places we hurt and the places we fuck up are the places we are most stimulated to make changes in. Maybe we should be grateful for these.

Ok moving on. There are some real changes in thinking that need to take place for us to navigate current mindfuckery.

First, make sure you live in TWO worlds.

two worlds

  1. The world of the healthy, questioning ‘conspiracy’ nut – the nut who sees the goddamn chemtrails, the unity plans, the engineered water crisis, the weird shit that falls out of the sky etc and
  2. The new flat screen, HD reality that is being created, do what you have to do, take what’s on offer as long as it doesn’t sell out your soul, because where else can you go – you still have to live.

I have read many great books lately, but always the writer is stuck in a ONE world view.

When I read I put one foot in their world and I keep one on the solid ground of TWO world thinking. There are two worlds here, so don’t lose your footing by selling out to one or the other.

Next try unplugging from unnecessary stressors.

i.e. (except after c)

Tone down the happiness fetish. Or even throw the little fucker out of your life.

This mindfuck-drug was pumped into the veins of the Western World over the last 100 years. Do not chase happiness or rate your life according to how much you have of it.


Happiness actually makes you less discerning, the last thing you want to be these days.

Just live in two worlds, get out of your head, create stuff and you’ll feel a lot better. Got it?

Next you need to start getting comfortable with discomfort.

Seriously, you really want to do this.
Comfort-heroin is not a healthy option.

Unfortunately comfort addiction is another engineered mindfuck. Bizarrely it actually arouses our fears for survival and we learn to panic when ANY kind of discomfort looms.

In Your Survival Instinct is Killing You, Marc Schoen gives some simple exercises to help reduce the fear of discomfort. What interests me is the method of holding TWO emotions at the same time instead of the usual single/ONE focus on whatever is bothering us.

He likens unhealthy single-minded-fear-focus to a rainbow made up only of red.


When we are able to train our brains to hold discomfort AND another feeling at the same time it’s like bringing in different colours – now the red is tempered …

more colours to your bow

… by other colours and we are no longer overwhelmed by ‘single’ focus.

And finally,
we come to the final blow,
to your identity.

Did you know that not only are you useless, and a comfort addict, you may also have a multiple personality disorder?

Ok just kidding, we can let the disorder bit slide.

But how about considering this. You are not the one person that you think you are, you are made up of multiple personalities.

I have found the ideas from The People You Are by Rita Carter to be thought provoking to say the least.

Carter suggests that each of us is a “team of personalities, working together, for the most part, to give the impression of a unified self”. This is unlike Multiple Personality Disorder where each personality is unaware of the others,

“Reading this book made me think about all of the times I’ve been perplexed at how a person can be one thing one minute, something different the next.”

If we work best in relationship then what if belonging to a community of selves (and knowing it) might give us more choices & more options?

“Twins, arch-nemeses, imagined selves, ‘Sliding Doors plots’… all of these are used in fiction to get across the idea of multiple selves without actually writing multiple selves.”

The more I think about this the more it makes sense and by paying attention lately I have definitely felt the rustle of personalities changing hands in my life according to the situation I am in at the time.

I find the notion intriguing, disconcerting and comforting.

To take the sting out of it, imagine being comprised of a group of mish-mashed compatriots on a quest.


Some you like better than others but each has a skill or ability that will come to the forefront when needed.

In a conversation with my son recently, he talked about the super confidant, ‘lip-giver’ he becomes in certain university law classes. However he has also found that sometimes this personality didn’t show up. Our conversation helped him identify the missing ingredient/trigger that allows this character to show up.

I remember a past hairdresser who was so cool, calm and collected and I really envied her laidbackness and told her so. She completely surprised me by saying she wasn’t like that outside the hair salon, in fact she was shy and lacking confidence.

Other people I have known now make a lot more sense when I apply this concept to them.  It really helps to think of inexplicable events as the result of differing selves come to the forefront rather than one person who seems to be totally fucked in the head at certain times. Myself included, I’m sure.

So think on this, if you are a group of selves do you have an ‘identity’ to either defend or impress others with?

I almost get the sense of being a CEO with a new mission – to update my company, check on who has been hired and if the job they are doing is beneficial to where I want my company to head in. If not I may have work to do.

Especially as I imagine that many of these characters were formed early in life to deal with specific situations. It’s quite possible we based these personalities on characters that appealed to us in movies and books. Would we still want or need these characters running our lives now?

Indeed I have wondered if certain selves, (you know those ones that really cause havoc) might be able to create scenarios that allow them to come on centre stage to ‘deal’ with the situation (that they caused).

waiting in wings

They create the problem so they can show up as the cavalry with the solution.

While I definitely think possession and entities exist, I don’t feel this multiplicity is part of that. Think of how you learned to drive a car. You now have a car driving personality that you allow to get you to & from work while you wander round in your head figuring out what to make for dinner.

So to finish I want to offer the idea that fairytales are examples of multiple personalities creating needed change for the individual whom they work for.

Let’s start with Rapunzel.

Rapunzel lost her ability to ‘speak up’.

Maybe no one would believe her, maybe she was made fun of, maybe she was too smart and no one wanted to hear her – we don’t know.

All we do know is that somehow she was “shut up” in a tower.

The Prince in this story symbolises the relationship with the outer world that will release her from the bondage of self-imposed exile in her inner world. She must desire and be willing to do the work to create relationship with the outer reality/Prince.


When the witch and the Prince call for her to let down her hair, she sends down her flowing locks – showing us that she has always had the key to her own freedom.

When the angry witch cuts off her hair and sends her away, Rapunzel is returned back to the world and she has to take the time it takes to re-establish her connection with it. Eventually she finds the Prince who was blinded by the witch and now that she has regained her voice and her power she can heal him.

Seen from this angle, there are no baddies, only personalities creating situations to bring about a return to power.

In Sleeping Beauty, the damsel is imprisoned inside her own psyche – she shuts out this world. This time another part of her personality has to work slowly to cut away this extreme limbic reaction (a wall of thorns + 100 years sleep) in order to return her to reality.

Cinderella is a co-dependent sacrificial slave who has to desire more out of life than being good. Her personalities provide a one-offkick-start in the pants by showing her a good time. One of Cinders more sensible personalities flips off her shoe at the last minute so she has a chance of meeting her prince/reality and continuing in a better life.

Beauty and the Beast – the beast is the discarded part of ‘Beauty’ that she has to come to accept. Relationship with this world is never going to be beautiful or comfortable, so Beauty has to learn to live with all that entails.

Adam and Eve – here’s a couple choosing self-imposed exile by refusing to accept life on its terms – angry about the ‘lowliness’ of being useless and only ever half of anything. They were fooled by shampoo adverts into believing they could have it all. We’re still waiting for the return to reality of these TWO.

January 20, 2018. Uncategorized. 17 comments.

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