enough is enough (all’s fare – part II)

This article is a three-pronged approach to a …


… perception-that-desperately-needs-changing.

Background: a seer who saw –

Richard Buckminster “Bucky” Fuller  …  was an American architect, systems theorist, author, designer, inventor, and futurist

many people called him the grandfather of the future – he lived his life to make a difference“.

Middleground: a woman who ‘got it‘ –

… in 1976 I was at one of his talks … had a chance to sit down & be part of the audience, just when I sat down he departed from his scientific talk …& turned to the audience & said:

Now I want to say the most important thing I have ever said, in fact it might be the most important thing I ever say.

Well I got real interested in that … my antennae were up, I sat up straight in my seat & was ready to hear whatever this was & then Bucky said:

“Humanity has just passed the most important …


we have ever passed
… & we’ve crossed
that threshold…


… clearly.

And the threshold is this – humanity is now doing so much more with so much less, and we will continue to do so much more with so much less, that we have crossed a threshold where we’re no longer in a world where there’s not enough for everyone, but rather we’re in a world where there is enough for everyone, everywhere to have a healthy & productive life, in other words we are moving from a …

caned abel

you OR me world,
where either
you make it at my expense
(because there’s not enough for both of us)
or …

disabling cain

… I make it at your expense
(because there’s not enough for both of us),
to a

double doors

you AND me world
where you & I can both make it at no one’s expense“.

Bucky said that this is a …


… m o n u m e n t a l shift
in the human journey …

… and it means that there is enough for everyone, everywhere to have a healthy & productive life & we don’t need to do that at the expense of anyone.

So moving from a you or me paradigm to a you and me paradigm is a monumental shift in our relatedness with one another, it literally changes everything.

Now Bucky said that humanity won’t adjust to this for a long time. He said it would take between 50 – 100 years … for us to realise that there is enough for everyone and when he said this somehow I heard it so deeply and profoundly at the very core of my being – I started crying – I started perspiring – I had a …


… kundalini kind of experience – a Shakti experience – I had an experience of a kind of radical truth – I totally & completely got itthis distinction of enough and it revolutionised or transformed my whole experience of life from that moment forward.

Bucky went on to say that it will be very difficult to make the transition from a you or me paradigm, to the you and me paradigm, from scarcity to sufficiency or enough, because all of the institutions of humankind have been built on & are rooted in an understanding of the world that there is not enough to go round. He said it is obvious that …

bank on it

… the economy is rooted there … but it’s also the fundamental understanding of the world that …

church foundations

… religion is based on,
that governance is based on,
that …

education foundations

… education is based on.

All of the great institutions of humankind are rooted in the understanding that there is not enough to go round … & that structure & system on which these institutions are based is the you OR me understanding of the world, so to shift to a you AND me paradigm will take at least 50 years for us to really, really get it.

Now Bucky said this in…


1976 …

… & it hasn’t been 50 years yet, so we haven’t made that shift but that day in 1976 something happened to me & I did make the shift, I began to see the enoughness, the sufficiency, the fullness of life e v e r y w h e r e – scarcity was gone, it was an epiphany over which I never got & thank god I never got over it

Foreground: Looking at one hiding place of scarcity

The hugeness of the above idea CANNOT simply sink in – it is like rain on drought-hardened land, it quickly runs off because we have no riverbeds of understanding for it to collect in.

That is why I chose to include the words of Lynne Twist above – without her emotionally charged reaction those words would have simply wetted my mind momentarily & then flowed, or evaporated away,

But this woman experienced …


a transformative, transcendent, embodied shift.

On that day, she had just been helping out at a talk ‘Bucky’ was giving – his scientific discussions had been way over her head. Yet the moment, she had a moment to sit down, he changed the subject completely & his words flowed directly into her ‘readied’ being.

Thirty years later, she created an audio book about her experiences as a fundraiser & her words flowed into my being. Now they have a chance to flow into yours.

Until such time as I find an explanation that outdoes the following, I shall name two ‘facts’ we have lived by, as parents to humanity’s abysmal history of inhumanity:

the law of ‘ownership of children
the belief that there is not enough‘.

The DNA’d acceptance of not enough has warped us insanely, yet we can’t see it at all.

What’s the point of worrying about the elephant in your living room when you’ve got one stuck …

elephant eye

in your eye..

I believe the ‘fact’ that there is not enough is the other 23 chromosomes in the inhumanity monster.

If I take you by the hand & walk you through lots of examples, I will simply make you stuffed & lazy.

I’m going to give you just one. Nothing will ever have any value to you unless you shape it according to your own truth.

Until I see differently, my truth will remain thus:

All ills & brutality & cruelty in this world stem from the inhuman treatment of children allowed by the Parental Property Act (circa Genesis) AND by being born into a world where every soul is initiated into the concept that …

look at me

there is not enough.

So staying within the monumentally important family, let us look at the effects of not enoughness upon a relationship that has received almost no attention.

Mention ‘sibling‘ & the word ‘rivalry‘ trots pavlovically along – somehow with that one phrase we think we understand a relationship that:

is the longest relationship we have over our whole lifespan

When it’s put that way we might wonder why so little attention has been paid to the theme of siblings or why that relationship can become so bloodied:

cain & albert

Whether the relationship is long or short, it is so fraught with emotion that we cannot put it aside in the way we can ignore an erstwhile friend. When a person does find it hard to sever forever their relationship with a faithless friend, it is often the case that the friend occupied a sibling-like position in that person’s life

Dorothy Rowe has studied siblings her entire life. Her book “My Dearest Enemy, My Dangerous Friend’ was a revelation at a time when I needed a revelation.

Some of the fights between siblings are far more significant matters than family hierarchy and fear. Siblings may scream insults at one another, or …

disabling cain

… exchange heavy blows, or destroy each other’s possessions. Some do all three. Such fights are bitter & vicious

Rowe sees the need to preserve our sense of being a person as the crux of life:

The … major theme applies to all of us, whether we are a sibling or not, namely the overarching need to preserve our sense of being a person and our terror of being annihilated as a person. All our sibling relationships, whatever their nature, are based on this. Even indifference to a sibling can be a way of defending against this. Sibling relationships are very much about being validated as a person

My take on this is that our need, is to ‘be real’, to have our ‘personal reality, …


… to maintain our sense of realness.

What happens when you are born into the world of humans where it is an absolute-lived-unquestionable-fact that there is NOT ENOUGH to go round?

In a healthy family ways would be found to deal with that fear. In abusive families, the threat to one’s own survival often becomes monumental:

… fights are bitter & vicious, necessarily so because each sibling is fighting for survival as a person … Each sibling knows the other so well that each knows what the other will find the most threatening. They want to turn the other into a non-person, no-thing in order to make themselves safe

Sibling relationships are very much about being validated as a person

In the last few years I have wondered if I was my family’s sacrifice – I know, I know, how melodramatic. But when do you stop fearing labels & allow your life to scream its screams?


I have a strong hunch that the conspiracy / truth movement is peopled by those who are/were their family’s ‘sacrifice’.

I did the very worst thing possible, I looked to my family to validate my life – that I was worth ‘saving’. I did not understand that in a world where there is not enough, someone or something needs to be sacrificed or at the very least, kept very small.

Time & time again I have heard the most atrocious tales of sibling cruelty & destructiveness. Why has this subject not been given it its own reality?

Once again pain is screamed through the ethers & everyone …


… boards up their ears.

For fuck’s sake, if no one will look at pain, how will we ever find what lies behind it so that we can allow it the reality it deserves?

It’s not going to stay you know,
it just needs to have
a little time
in reality.

It is the frog that needed to spend one evening in the princess’s company …


… so that it could be transformed into a prince.

Why is everyone so afraid of pain?

Actually I have been playing lately with the idea of opening a ‘Pain Gallery’ – where paintings, poems, statues of pain stand large & proud – where people in pain can come & find they are not alone. When people are allowed to feel their pain, the pain begins to move, when they find others also share their pain, they begin to heal.

We allow the body to heal from physical injury, yet deny the emotional self the same privilege.


Here are some further thoughts via human psychology and neuroscience on the effects of not enoughness on traumatising the family:

Is it possible that you are not succeeding because there is no space for you to succeed? … Draw a circle of people in your nuclear family. Segment the circle into sections for the people who have been the most successful…

family pie

see if you occupy less success space than anyone else. Is there enough success pie for you? If there is not enough, realize that this may be why your success has not increased over time … You may feel that the success space has already been claimed by someone else. As a result, you may have informed your brain that there is no space for you to expand into … Although a geographic cure is not the first plan of action that I would suggest, I have seen situations where it worked wonders …  Martha, a bright young medical student … struggled but succeeded in getting through medical school, felt that she would never be able to exceed the accomplishments of her two brothers and her sister … she decided to accept a position in a state very far away …


… this gave her the mental freedom to succeed.

Adam was a star student … [his] awards and success led to more recognition for him and less for everyone else … his classmates asked the teacher to ask Adam to say less during class …Adam started to be more silent in class, but in the process, he gave up his success space voluntarily, It was not until Adam realized that this was setting him back considerably that he was able to do anything about it. Until then, he had guiltily given over his domain to the others” ~ Life Unlocked – Srinivasan S. Pillay

The subterranean foundations of our lives were built within the family (or similar structure) we were raised in. We might have grown upwards & out & wear size 8, 9, 10 shoes, but the programme we run on is the same one that was installed very early on. The predictability of our own & our family’s & friends lives is rooted in this & it just gets easier & easier to see.

So why not get as clear as we can now so that we can have a richer, healthier future.

Look into your life & see how many places & ways the unquestioned “fact’ that there is not enough, has taken root.

One more hint from Lynne Twist – bear in mind that themore is better” meme is the love child of “there is not enough“.

Let’s finish with a thought from Bucky. I noticed a strange saying on his gravestone which said …

weight loss

… “Call me Trim Tab” – fearing that this ‘enlightened seer’ would turn out to be a ‘pusher’ of weight loss pills I felt it necessary to investigate further:

Something hit me very hard once, thinking about what one little man could do. Think of the Queen Mary—the whole ship goes by and then comes the rudder. And there’s a tiny thing at the edge of the rudder called a trim tab.

It’s a miniature rudder. Just moving the little trim tab builds a low pressure that pulls the rudder around. Takes almost no effort at all. So I said that the little individual can be a trim tab. Society thinks it’s going right by you, that it’s left you altogether. But if you’re doing dynamic things mentally, the fact is that you can just put your foot out like that and the whole big ship of state is going to go”

So I said, call me Trim Tab

—Buckminster Fuller

There is no reason why we all can’t be the little person who creates great change. If each reader was to set to work to clear their consciousness of the lie of scarcity in its many guises, we might just change the whole course of the future.

~  ~  ~

All text in this colour from Unleashing the Soul of Money ~ Lynne Twist

All text in this colour from My Dearest Enemy, My Dangerous Friend ~ Dorothy Rowe

All text in this colour from Life Unlocked ~ Srinivasan S. Pillay

February 22, 2013. Uncategorized.


  1. Kyle John replied:

    Great message Alex. We can all prosper without the negativity and there is abundance for all. I am in tune with your message and have been feeling the same shift in spirit as of late. Thank you.


  2. shabsoasis replied:

    “I have a strong hunch that the conspiracy / truth movement is peopled by those who are/were their family’s ‘sacrifice’.

    I did the very worst thing possible, I looked to my family to validate my life – that I was worth ‘saving’. I did not understand that in a world where there is not enough, someone or something needs to be sacrificed or at the very least, kept very small.”

    Wow. Boom. Thoughts for me to chew on for a while even though the words instantly resonated with what I’ve been learning these days. I feel that through my stepping into myself again I’ve been able to reflect that reality to my family, and we are all seeing things in a different light.

    I thank you for all your work. I’m very blessed to have found you at this time. You’ve helped me through a lot of shifts, and encouraged a lot of shifts indeed.


  3. alex robinson replied:

    Thanks KyleJohn & its very good to hear that shifts are happening for you.

    very best to you

    Hi shabsoasis, I was driving home yesterday thinking maybe I shouldn’t have put that bit in, maybe people just won’t be able to hear that – then I thought ‘no, fuckit’ I need to say it & I know there are people who need to hear that – when I got home I found your comment :) I thank you for responding, it was priceless.

    very best to you in all your shifts & changes


  4. empoweredbyknowledge replied:

    You speak to my pain and my pain answers.


  5. Joanne replied:

    Ahh, yes :) This ties up quite a few things you’ve been considering for as long as I’ve been familiar with your work! That’s very good. It’s also nice to see how your writing is still constructed to benefit both you and your audience. And I like the idea of only presenting one specific example, so your readers can form their own conclusions.

    I can apply the notion of sibling rivalry more easily to certain female friendships I’ve had over the years than I can to my relationship with my sister. And I guess the reason why I say that is… not that me and my sister get along 100% all the time… because we don’t, we can be like oil and water sometimes… but I never felt like she was after anything of mine. Do you know what I mean?

    That said, I think you’re right about the scarcity notion. The logic I just explained admits it applies to me. But I think my sister and I have been lucky enough to bypass a relationship based on scarcity in ways that wasn’t necessarily possible with my female friendships.

    When I wonder why that could possibly be, I think about how our mom was very diligent about us sharing when we grew up. And still, sometimes, in less visible ways. And I think that being instilled on both of us, from the same person, so many times while we grew up… I don’t know, it just helped.

    It’s nice for me to read this because it makes me realize how some of female friendships over the years – especially the destructive ones I’ve ended – have encroached on my relationship with my sister. And the destructive friendships definitely did operate from a place of scarcity.

    Can you imagine how many connections have ended on that note? What a shame to even think. I’m glad you pointed it out though, because I’m working through some of my own past issues right now, and this does help to know.

    And on a brighter note, why NOT create a gallery that showcases emotional pain? Certainly that would be an appropriate place for it, and I bet you’d find plenty of people who would benefit from that kind of outlet. Misery shouldn’t be completely denied of its capability to initiate growth.

    Great risks indeed :) Take good care!!!


  6. alex robinson replied:

    Thank you empowered, pain needs to be honoured (in some way) – am wondering now just how much disease is actually an expression of dishonoured/unheard/unseenpain.

    very best to you

    Hi Joanne
    I think any great thing only works if people can add themselves to it or in some way make it their own – with art it might be how the meaning the viewer gives to the creation. I remember as a teenager feeling as if my favourite book had been written just for me, it never touched anyone else the way it touched me, still touches me. So yes I have to leave space for others to connect with my ideas, to pick & choose what they wish & to make their own meaning & connections.

    I am glad you have a dynamic relationship with your sister. Certainly there are many wonderful sibling relationships but there are also many toxic ones – when subjects can be seen they can be healed or if necessary, we can choose to stop playing that game – but first we need to be able to see the truth/reality of the relationship & the parts being played.

    I can actually see the pain gallery quite clearly, a place where people are freed from the restraints of being bright & cheery or success-achieving all the time – a place to retreat from the bright glare of that world & feel what one feels – I wouldn’t call it misery, I think I would call it honesty.

    very best to you in your creating


  7. Katherine replied:

    Hello Alex,
    Thanks for another great post with amazing insight. I know there are many people ready to make that paradigm shift into the you and me world and yet, as you point out, it can be so hard as every institution seems to gear toward the opposite.
    I loved the bit about the trim tab…What an awesome analogy and the world could certainly use a few more trim tabs! I also had a nice chuckle at you initially thinking it had something to do with weight loss pills. Awesome!


    • alex robinson replied:

      Hehe hi Katherine, I was dismayed when I first read that, thinking how can I use the words of a guy who promoted weight loss pills :)

      What an amazing world it would be for children to be born into, if we no longer had to fight for our existence because there was ‘not enough’ – maybe children are born knowing that & it has to be traumatised out of them. Keep doing your great subterranean work wherever you find yourself in life, it is so needed.



  8. Mick replied:

    Thanks Alex, excellent post. I too like the idea of the trim tab, gives an actual power to the individual, however isolated.

    As for the fact that we have infinite resources, I think it is how you live. A subsistence way of life is not poverty – you just take as much as you need and no more. It’s a case of is your cup half full or half empty?

    I don’t think dna ‘cares’ either way as it is everywhere and in everything. Whatever happens, it will still be there. From what i’ve read and experienced so far, our knowledge of anything is so scanty and misapplied that basically anything goes.

    I take heart in remembering to be trim tab.

    Many Thanks



    • alex robinson replied:

      Thanks Mick
      It’s deeply sad that we think we are so small that we can’t make a difference – most often it is small things that have great effect – just look at insects like mosquitos & ants, talk about a force to be reckoned with.

      Power to you!


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